Treading Softly


How do you help a little girl, who has been with the same foster family for 3 years, transition to her forever family?

How does a 5 year old even understand ‘forever family’?

How do you keep from hurting her as she is removed from her home yet again?

When we are around D we have so much joy. We can’t wait to have her home. We are weary from telling her good-bye.

But then I look into her sweet face and I see joy, but I also see glimmers of confusion, worry, and doubt. I know she is confused. I see us all treading softly on emotions. She has been in a loving and caring home for the past 3 years. She thought it was forever, that was all her little mind could process. She has been a part of a family who has fed her when she was hungry and cared for her when she was sick. They have gone to church together and on vacation together. They are wonderful foster parents but they can’t be her forever family. They know the time has come to help their little girl transition to a new home. God has called us to step up and be her parents. But I know she is wondering who we are?

Who is this family that has swooped in and in just a matter of weeks has become a big part of her life? What do we want from her? Why are we taking so many pictures of her?!! 🙂

How do I show her I will be there for her? How do I make her realize I want nothing more right now than to be her mommy? How do I earn her trust? How do I explain I will love and care for her forever?

This has been my conversation with God this morning…

“I need wisdom, Lord.”


Romans 8 is one of my favorite chapters in the Bible and God took me back there this morning to remind of things he has taught me in the past.

“those who live according to the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires…the mind is governed by life and peace…The Spirit brought about your adoption…the Spirit helps us in our weakness. When we do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us…And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose…nothing in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

This is what I know…I know God’s Spirit is in me, and in Him I have all life and peace. I know God adopted me into His family and He showed me His love. I know God has called us to provide a loving home for D. I know she may not understand but that’s okay. I don’t always understand God’s love for me, but He keeps on showing it. I know God will help me in my weakness and pray for me when I don’t know what to do next. I know His plan for us is perfect and He will not call us to do something He has not equipped us to do.

I know this transition will not be easy, but I know God will continue to give us wisdom to carry out what He has called us to do. And I know this is all I need to know right now.



One thought on “Treading Softly

  1. Erica D Noumba says:

    You have blessed family. Thank you for this powerful message You guys have a great impact on me and i am sure in many people’s life. I thanks God for what he is doing through you. I know D will fit just fine in the family and as you are a blessing for she will be one for y’all.
    Thank you!!!!
    And many more blessings to come your way in Jesus name

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